Codependent vs Interdependent Relationships
How do you know if you’re in a codependent or interdependent relationship? Which should we be wary of when it comes to building our relationships? Is codependency healthy or toxic? This topic comes from a TikTok video I uploaded, and in this episode, we expound on this topic and discuss all the pros and cons of these two types of relationships.
Codependent relationships refer to an unhealthy and dysfunctional pattern of relating where one or both individuals rely excessively on each other for emotional and psychological needs, often at the expense of their own well-being. These relationships can be emotionally draining and prevent personal growth and independence for both parties involved.
Interdependent relationships are healthy and balanced connections where individuals maintain their independence while also relying on and supporting each other in a mutually beneficial way. Interdependent relationships foster individual growth and self-expression while promoting a strong sense of connection, collaboration, and inter-reliance.
5 Key Differences
Pros and Cons:
It's important to note that these pros and cons are general observations and that relationships can exist on a spectrum. Each relationship is unique, and what works for one couple may not work for another.
Which to choose:
Ideally, the goal should be to foster an interdependent relationship rather than a codependent one. Interdependent relationships are generally considered healthier and more balanced, as they allow for individual growth, autonomy, and mutual support. In an interdependent relationship, both individuals maintain their own identities, interests, and boundaries while actively collaborating and supporting each other. It promotes a sense of equality, respect, and healthy inter-reliance.
Codependent relationships, on the other hand, can be emotionally unhealthy and hinder personal growth and independence. They often involve an imbalanced power dynamic, blurred boundaries, and a reliance on the other person for emotional validation and well-being.
It's important to remember that each relationship is unique, and people have different needs and preferences. However, prioritizing interdependence allows for a healthy balance of independence and connection, fostering personal growth, mutual support, and emotional well-being. Communication, respect, and setting healthy boundaries are key elements in developing and maintaining an interdependent relationship.
From Episode 117 of Adulting with Joyce Pring: “Codependent vs Interdependent Relationships”