Dealing With Broken Dreams

“DEALING WITH BROKEN DREAMS” EP. 5 SHOW NOTES FROM THE PODCAST:

After a long hiatus, we are back with quite a heavy topic: dealing with broken dreams. One of the hardest things in life is seeing the dreams you worked so hard for fail in front of you. Times like these raise a lot of questions and doubts in our minds: How do I deal with the pain? Should I keep going or just give up? Frankly, there is no definite answer, but this is a topic worth talking about. In this episode, we share Joyce’s experience with broken dreams, how to deal with it and some words of wisdom to help you get through these tough times.

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Joyce has had her fair share of experience with broken dreams. When she was younger, she wanted to be a dance star, but she later realized that it would not work out. She also dreamt of being a painter, having taken up Fine Arts in UP Diliman, but that didn’t work out as well. Now, Joyce is doing something she never thought she would be doing: hosting and vlogging--and she couldn't be happier. Here are some things she learned along her journey:

God sometimes takes away things so He can replace it with something better
- By better, it doesn’t necessarily mean that it's better on your terms but better for the fulfillment of His plans for you.
- Joyce may not have achieved the dreams she’s had before, but now she loves her career. Through hosting and vlogging, she not only has fun but also has an avenue where she can help more people and put her talents to better use.
- If something doesn't work out in your life, don’t forget to look at the things that do work out. Oftentimes, we get blinded by our failures, but when we look at them in retrospect, we realize that there are lots of things that we gained from them.
It’s maybe not a “never,” maybe just “not right now.”
- If you’ve been trying hard and it's just not working out, maybe it’s just “not right now.” If you think about it, there are so many success stories about people who worked so hard and did not get results till they were in their 30’s or 40’s.
- One great example is Vincent Van Gogh. Van Gogh did not get recognized until he was dead. In fact, nobody wanted to pay for his paintings and his own brother had to fund them.
- When things aren’t working out, always remember that the recognition that you get right now is not the end all be all of things. As long you create something that you know is substantial and valuable for you, maybe one day it will help other people.
Its okay to let go of things.
- It’s okay for things to fail-- that’s just how life works.
- Sometimes we have an entitlement mentality that we think we deserve something/someone, but if we really think about it, none of us deserve these things. It’s by God’s grace and love that we receive these blessings.
- When we focus on something we really want, we tend to blur everything else, no matter how good it is. During times like these, we end up focusing too much on the things we want and we disregard the other blessings that we should value and be thankful for.
Other notes
1. The things that we achieve and the things we don’t achieve don’t define our value as human beings.
2. The most important things in life are God, God’s word and People. Anything else we acquire in this lifetime will all fade away. What matters the most are the things that will last forever: the way we love and serve people and God.

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Episode summary by Jacy Olivares, follow her in Instagram: @jacyolivares

Adulting With Joyce Pring the Podcast:

The How-To’s of your 20’s told by a 26 year old. Basically, the blind leading the blind - expectantly and with gusto. Adulting With Joyce Pring the podcast is available for free on iTunes, Spotify, Podcast app, and all your other podcast providers. All written, recorded, and produced by Joyce Pring, unless stated otherwise.