Speaking Out Against Verbal Abuse
Verbal abuse happens in several environments and can take many different forms that we might not be aware of. On this episode, I’m joined by Ms. Sheema-Bajana Samson, Executive Director of Gender Watch Against Violence and Exploitation (GWAVE) to help us understand what verbal abuse looks like, its harmful effects, and how we can speak out against it to help victims. Words can hurt, but they can also heal
What is verbal abuse?
Verbal abuse refers to the use of spoken or written words, as well as non-verbal communication, to harm, belittle, control, manipulate, or intimidate another person. It involves the consistent and intentional use of language to demean, insult, threaten, criticize, humiliate, or undermine someone's self-esteem, worth, or well-being. Verbal abuse can occur in various relationships, such as between partners, parents and children, friends, coworkers, or any other individuals.
First, know the forms of verbal abuse:
1) Name-calling
and insults.
Using derogatory terms, offensive language, or demeaning names to attack a person's character or identity.
2) Threats and intimidation.
Using explicit or implicit threats, coercion, or intimidation to instill fear or control the person. This can include threats of physical harm, emotional manipulation, or social isolation.
3) Gaslighting.
Manipulating the person's perception of reality, making them doubt their own thoughts, feelings, memories, or sanity. Gaslighting involves denying, distorting, or minimizing the abuse and making the victim question their own experiences.
4) Constant Criticism.
Offering excessive, unjustified, or exaggerated criticism about the person's behavior, choices, or abilities, with the intention of undermining their confidence and self-worth.
5) Controlling and demeaning communication.
Exerting control by monitoring or restricting communication, isolating the person from their support network, or treating them as inferior, stupid, or incompetent.
It's important to note that verbal abuse can have severe emotional and psychological effects on the victim, and it is not a healthy or acceptable form of communication in any relationship. If you or someone you know is experiencing verbal abuse, it is crucial to seek support from trusted friends, family, or professionals who can provide guidance and help in dealing with the situation.
“Create a culture that doens’t condone the wrong kind of behavior. ”
How can we fight against verbal abuse?
1) Education and awareness.
Promote education and awareness about verbal abuse. Encourage discussions in schools, workplaces, and communities to raise awareness about the signs, effects, and consequences of verbal abuse. By increasing understanding and knowledge, individuals can better identify and address such behavior.
2) Foster healthy communication.
Promote and practice healthy communication techniques in relationships and communities. Encourage active listening, empathy, respect, and assertiveness in interactions. Teach conflict resolution skills and the importance of expressing thoughts and feelings in a constructive and non-abusive manner.
3) Advocate for change.
Speak out against verbal abuse in all its forms. Challenge societal norms and attitudes that perpetuate abusive behaviors. Support organizations and initiatives that work towards preventing verbal abuse and promoting healthy communication.
4) Lead by example.
Model respectful and non-abusive behavior in your own relationships and interactions. Treat others with kindness, empathy, and dignity. By demonstrating respectful communication, you can inspire and encourage others to do the same.
5) Encourage bystander intervention.
Encourage individuals to speak up and intervene when they witness verbal abuse. Bystanders can play a vital role in supporting victims by providing assistance, offering comfort, or confronting the abuser in a safe manner.
Remember, supporting victims of verbal abuse requires sensitivity, empathy, and a non-judgmental approach. Encourage them to seek professional help if needed and provide ongoing support throughout their healing process.
“Fighting for what you believe in doesn’t have to hurt others in the process. ”
From Episode 136 of Adulting with Joyce Pring: “Speaking Out Against Verbal Abuse”