“I want a breakup...” (Valentine’s Day Special)

Happy Valentine's Day! This episode is kind of heavy but hopefully can help you guys with the same problem with our letter sender.

Deciding whether to break up with a long-term boyfriend or continue the relationship while trying to introduce him to Jesus is a deeply personal and complex decision. Here are some considerations that might help you in this situation:

Biblical Guidance

Unequally Yoked: The Bible advises against being "unequally yoked" with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). This often implies that having a close relationship, such as marriage, with someone who does not share your faith can lead to challenges in maintaining your spiritual life and values.

Practical Considerations:

1) Current Relationship Dynamics

Evaluate how your differing beliefs are currently affecting your relationship. Are there conflicts or significant differences in values and priorities? How open is your boyfriend to discussing faith matters?

2) Your Spiritual Well-being

Consider how this relationship impacts your spiritual growth and well-being. Is it drawing you closer to God or creating a spiritual struggle for you?

3) His Openness to Faith

Reflect on whether your boyfriend is open to exploring Christianity. Is he respectful and curious about your beliefs, or is he indifferent or even hostile towards them?

 Potential Approaches

1) Open Conversation

Have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about your faith and its importance to you. Gauge his interest and willingness to explore Christianity.

2) Community Support

Seek counsel from trusted Christian friends, mentors, or a pastor. They can provide insights and support as you navigate this decision.

3) Patience and Love

If you decide to stay in the relationship, continue to demonstrate Christ-like love and patience. Sometimes, actions and genuine care can be more effective in sharing your faith than words alone.

This decision should be guided by your convictions, the leading of the Holy Spirit, and practical wisdom. If staying in the relationship hinders your relationship with God or compromises your values, it might be wise to reconsider. Conversely, if you see potential for your boyfriend to come to faith and if you feel led to be a positive influence in his spiritual journey, you might choose to stay and invest more effort into introducing him to Jesus.

From Ep 221 of Adulting with Joyce Pring: “I want a breakup...” (Valentine’s Day Special)”