7 Things to QUIT in Your 20s (from a 30 year-old)
Welcome to a full-circle moment! Six years ago, at 25, I launched this podcast with an episode called "Things to Stop Doing in Your 20s." Now that I'm in my 30s, I’m revisiting that list with a fresh perspective, new lessons, and a lot more growth!
Our 20s are a time of growth, change, and figuring things out—but some habits might be holding us back. Now that in a 30 year old perspective sharing seven things you wish you had quit sooner. Let’s talk about what’s worth leaving behind to make room for a better, more fulfilling life.
7 Things to QUIT
1) Stop comparing yourself to others
Constant comparison is hard to escape in a world of curated images and endless opinions. It steals joy, making the grass always seem greener elsewhere. In our 20s, it often consumed us, but at 31, we wish we had let go sooner. True peace comes from humility, discipline, and trusting that God guides each step.
2) Stop neglecting your health
Smoking, drinking, and neglecting wellness can leave lasting effects, even after quitting. This isn't to instill fear but to encourage mindful decisions early on. Aging is inevitable, but building healthy habits ensures not just longevity but quality of life. Prioritizing nutrition, exercise, and mindful consumption pays off—because your 20s set the foundation for your future self
3)Stop saying yes to everything
Saying yes in your 20s fosters growth, but without boundaries, it can lead to exhaustion. The key is thoughtful choices. Ask: Does this align with my values, faith, and goals? If it enriches your life, go for it. If it disrupts rest, growth, or priorities, it may be worth reconsidering.
Being open to experiences is important, but so is setting boundaries to ensure that every yes serves a greater purpose . (JP)
4)Stop fearing failure
Failure isn’t defeat—it’s growth. Adam Grant highlights the value of taking risks, not to fail intentionally, but to learn and progress. Without risk, there’s no growth. It’s the season for trying, experimenting, and sometimes failing—whether in business, investments, or personal growth—because the stakes are often lower than later in life.
Embrace failure as proof of effort. If we’re not failing, we’re not pushing ourselves. The only true failure is not trying at all. (JP)
5) Stop spending recklessly
Spending wisely isn’t about saving every penny—it’s about prioritizing what matters while enjoying life. Travel, for example, wasn’t an expense but an investment in growth. Some saw it as reckless, but there are no regrets.
The key is balance. Save and invest, but don’t deprive yourself. Spend with intention—on experiences, small joys, or anything that adds value to your life.
“Financial responsibility isn’t just about accumulation; it’s also about using your resources to create a fulfilling life.”
6) Stop holding on to toxic relationships
Be intentional about who you surround yourself with—your 20s shape your 30s. Healthy relationships uplift and support, while toxic ones can hold you back.
This isn’t about cutting people off but setting boundaries. Sometimes, loving others means stepping back and trusting God. You’re not their savior—Jesus is. Prioritize relationships that foster growth and reflect the values you want in your next season.
7) Stop waiting for the perfect moment
Life is a blend of joy and suffering—waiting for the "perfect moment" only keeps you stuck. Every season has struggles, but embracing this truth brings peace.
Joy and hardship can coexist, and no season lasts forever. True contentment comes not from chasing perfection but from anchoring yourself in faith, gratitude, and trust in God.
Instead of resisting hardship, see it as part of the journey. Walk closely with God, knowing that both blessings and trials shape you. Gratitude, humility, and trust in Him are what carry you through every season—whether it's overflowing with joy or filled with struggle.
“No matter what season you’re in, whether you’re thriving or struggling, it’s all part of the journey. Keeping your eyes on Him, embracing both the joys and hardships, is what leads to a life of deeper meaning and peace.”