What Does It Mean to be Vulnerable?
If vulnerability is such a natural thing, how come most of us are so afraid of it? We grew up in a society that taught us that being emotional equates to weakness. Now, we understand that acknowledging emotions can actually better us. In this episode of Adulting with Joyce Pring Podcast, Coach Lyqa Maravilla and Joyce talked about how we can live out this mindset and carry it into the next generation.
Why are we afraid of “VULNERABILITY”
You can blame a lot of things, especially growing up where it plays a huge part in how we handle emotions. “Tahan na” – there’s this idea in the society where if you’re emotional it means you’re weak and you can’t think emotionally – when in fact the best decisions we made mostly comes from our emotions. We have to all sit on our emotions.
“If you’re not logical, you’re emotional – you can’t be both.” – It’s always that, when in reality, you always have to be both at the same time.
Reasons why Joyce was having a hard time with her emotions:
For Coach Lyqa, to allow vulnerability is also to acknowledge the following:
○ Verifying if it’s a fact or a feeling. In order to better analyze the situation and properly acknowledge the side of one another, Coach Lyqa’s friend always help her to try see where the emotion is coming from.
○ Generational Pain. Growing up with the societal norm of hearing people saying “Ano ba ‘yan, umiiyak ka na, ‘yan lang?” – without even trying to understand where they are coming from. “We really have to change the way we behave if we really want to change the next generation…”
From Episode 100 of Adulting with Joyce Pring: “WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE VULNERABLE”