What It Means to Show Up for Yourself
“Even if you don’t feel like doing something today, you still show up.” There are really times that you don’t have the drive to do anything, but how can you overcome it? How can we choose to show up and be present for ourselves everyday? On this episode of Adulting with Joyce Pring, Coach Yani Moya accompanied Joyce as they discuss about these things.
“The biggest of changes will only happen if you’re willing to be consistent with the small steps that you take every single moment and every single day.”
How to Show Up when You Don’t Feel it?
○ Choose – at the end of the day, you are responsible for the choices that you are going to make, 80% of success is because of showing up.
○ Being Present in the Moment – just try to be present with your body and the situation the you wanna be in.
○ Honor Every Effort – because instead of just giving up, you show up and gave still something not just for the sake of doing so.
○ Just Be With – and when you pledge you full presence, just be WITH that moment, save your other thoughts for some different time.
○ Anchor Everything in Your Purpose – so it will be easier to actually show up even with all the hindrances.
○ Practice Consistency – until you make it a natural habit.
○ Show up for 5 minutes – and wait until it just flows. Toughest thing is to start but most of the times, all you need to do is to just start.
○ The Theory of Space – surround yourself with the people you want to become, learn from their habits and disciplines.
An empty cup cannot pour anything. You won’t really grow unless your mindful of putting things in your head. 33% percent of the time – you should be the one giving out; the next 33% percent of your time should be spent with the people of the same mindset; and the remaining 34% of your time should be with the people who give you learnings and spent with you in the position to receive and learn from others as well. With this portioning, you allow yourself to grow and you allow yourself to live.
“In any situation, you lose the moment you don’t show up.”
Things that Keep us from Showing Up
○ Awareness. Identify where the fear is coming from. Raise your awareness of where the fear of showing up comes from and figure out how to get over that fear.
○ Reason. It is harder to show up when you’re coming from a place of blame, anger, guilt or shame (BAGS) but when you’re coming from a place of pleasure, it will be easier and totally freeing to function.
○ Competition. Stop thinking about the competition, start thinking about the long game – on where will your purpose lie.
“We don’t operate in big steps but always in small steps done consistently over a period of time.”
Getting all the opportunities. Even in doubt, still show up because by just being there, opportunities also keep getting there. Doors are always open for everybody but not everybody is willing to step into that door. That’s why you need to show up, it may not be the door you want to get into but that’s the only available door – there’s no harm on grabbing the opportunities that lies ahead of you just by showing up.
From Episode 104 of Adulting with Joyce Pring: ” WHAT IT MEANS TO SHOW UP FOR YOURSELF”